Amigas, ha tempos que eu queria escrever sobre esse assunto. MODA/FASHION.
Nao sou uma expert no assunto, mas gosto do meu jeito de combinar as pecas e tento me inteirar daquilo que eh legal, que esta na moda e os NO, NOs, da vida da Moda.
Bom o assunto... FASHION...
Sabe quando a gente recebe aquele convite e fica na duvida de que roupa vai colocar? Pois eh! Eh sobre isso que vamos falar.. Minha sogra vive me ligando pra pedir sugestoes e conselhinhos basicos (me acho ne?). Ela me considera expert no assunto (ai ai ai.. mal sabe ela...) anyway, eu tento ne? Vamos la...
GUIA do que SE PODE e NAO SE PODE fazer*
Se a Ocasiao for um
CASAMENTO: Etiqueta Velha diz que nao se usa BRANCO, PRETO OU VERMELHO. Nova estiqueta diz que vermelho e preto sao perfeitamente OK. Desde que vc nao se atreva a usar BRANCO - rs. Quem usaria branco num casamento anyway? nunca nem ouvi contar uma historia.
Se o casamento for durante o dia, fiquem longe das roupas cheias de brilhinhos e aqueles tecidos pesados de tantas lantejolas e fru-frus... O casamento durante o dia pede por um vestidinho de comprimento no joelho (de preferencia), de cottom ou outro tecido (dependendo e respeitando, a estacao do ano e o clima). Tomara que caia sao bem vindos e sapatos com o bico aberto, tbem sao ok.Ate um chapeuzinho delicado e simples pode ficar bonito e cai muito bem. Agora olha so:
Se a cerimonia for de tarde e a festa se estende pela noite, consideramos o casamento semi-formal, o que pede um Cocktail dress ou ate mesmo um terninho com cores que nao irao ofuscar a noiva. Como por exemplo: Rosa eh ok, mas PINK nem pensar... Seda e Misturas de Seda tambem sao aprovadas. Agora nao vao esquecer, se usarem um tomara-que-caia, nao se esquecam de terem um casaquinho ou xale na hora da cerimonia, principalmente se for na Igreja*
Se a cerimonia for formal do tipo: Black tie, entao ja sabe, pode colocar aquele vestido MARAVILHOSO que todas nos temos em nossos Closets... Abusem da Seda e do Brilho...
Se a ocasiao for um Cocktail Party, sem surpresa aqui ne mulherada? Cocktail dresses, que estao sempre na moda e sao uma otima opcao pra qualquer festa. Agora, temos outras opcoes viu? Uma saia bem legal com um top com detalhes ou sparkles tambem sao uma boa pedida.
Se a ocasiao for um jantar na casa de amigos: a velha etiqueta pede um pretinho basico e sapatos de salto.
Etiqueta nova: aqui vai ter sempre um truquezinho. Vc pode ir muito mais arrumada que todo mundo (oque seria pessimo), voce pode ir menos arrumada do que todo mundo (o que seria ainda pior), vc pode ofender quem esta dando a festa, dependendo da maneira que vc vai se vestir... portanto, o melhor conselho: Pede uma opiniao a pessoa quem esta dando a festa. Pergunte se a atomosfera eh + pra um Denim (jeans bem vindos) ou eh + uma festinha do tipo: Saia e Blusinha abotoada, ou vestido to tipo:Cocktail dress..
Conselho que sempre funciona (esconda na bolsa um scarf bem lindo e um par de brincos bem dangly ou do tipo chandelier)... se voce precisar, estara em maos...rsrs
Se a ocasiao for um jantar de negocios: Va pelos sinais... Se o tipo da tua compania for daqueles bem abertos, do tipo: (Fabrica e loja de equipamentos de surf), vc pode ir mais despojada. Nao use nada provocante. Roupas provocantes podem impedir as pessoas de te olharem e te respeitarem como voce deve ser olhada e respeitada num ambiente profissional.
Se depois do jantar, vcs vao a uma festa ou dancar, um vestido tipo envelope, cores nao muito escuras e provocantes, podem cair bem.. do tipo verdinho ou ate mesmo um tom metalico. Ou ate mesmo vc pode jogar um colar bem chuncky ao inves de perolas..
Se for uma entrevista de Trabalho:
A velha etiqueta diz que um terninho eh sempre a melhor alternativa.
Bom, nao em todos os casos. Muita coisa mudou. Depende muito do estilo de empresa que vc ta querendo se ingressar.
Muitos Entrevistadores gostam de sentir e ver um pouco de personalidade na maneira com a qual o candidato se apresenta. Portanto, arrisque um pouco, mas nao ultrapasse a linha que te leva pro ridiculo, senao.. ja era.
Terninho eh uma boa pedida. JEANS: NUNCA. Eh importante destacar que a roupa deve estar impecavelmente limpa e passada.
Eh uma questao degosto bom senso tambem ne gente?
Se a ocasiao for um batismo ou cerimonia religiosa:
Velha etiqueta pedia tecidos florais, chapeus e ate luvas.
Nova etiqueta pede pra voce respeitar o tipo de cerimonia e ter o senso de que numa cerimonia religiosa, nao se vai provocante, com saia curtas ou mostrando decote ne? Se for um batismo, abuse um pouco das cores, pode ser um terninho com uma cor bem alegre (afinal vc esta celebrando uma crianca e as criancas sao alegres e despojadas).
Um vestidinho do tipo: Vestidinho de Verao tambem cai bem.
Se tiver uma festa ou jantar depois da cerimonia, eh perfeitamente ok, trocar de roupa se vc tiver uma brecha e colocar algo + pra noite.
Se a ocasiao for um funeral ou velorio:
Velha etiqueta diz: se vc esta sofrendo... preto eh a sua cor.
Nao eh + assim viu gente? O negocio eh: respeite a familia e a ocasiao.
Use algo que nao seja provocante (obviamente) e nem que seja todo florido e com cores vibrantes. Use algo conservador, sofisticado e com cores tipo: verde musgo, marrom, azul marinho ou preto. Perolas sao bem-vindas e brincos studs tambem. Nada de colares e brincos extravagantes.
Se a ocasiao for uma Noite no Teatro, Ballet ou Opera:
Velha etiqueta dizia, infelizmente nao diz mais que vc pode se emperequetar mesmo! Ja que pagou uma quantia exorbitante no ingresso, vamos caprichar no vestido longo e black tie ne?
Sim e Nao. A realidade eh que pode, mas muita gente aderiu ao jeans e camisetinha escrito: I love NY. Gente nao tem nada + brega do que ir ao Teatro de jeans e camiseta.. Ridiculo.
Vestidinho Cocktail vai bem em qualquer ocasiao. Vamos ter senso!!!
Se a ocasiao eh o Primeiro jantar com o gato ou pra conhecer os pais do namorado/futuro maridex.
Genteee... esse nao eh o melhor lugar pra correr riscos. Embora vc tenha que escolher uma roupa que mostre tua personalidade e te deixe a vontade, isso nao quer dizer que vc pode colocar qualquer coisa ne? Nao escolha nada apertado ou curto, ou decotado, ou rasgado...
Escolha algo que te deixe a vontade, que reflita tua personalidade, que seja apresentavel (nem muito, nem pouco). O meio termo neste caso eh fundamental e necessario.
In English:Tired of not knowing what to wear when you get that invitation? Well, I am not an expert in fashion. But I do like to read about it. Also I consider myself a well dressed woman. I always try to make sure what type of place I am going, what kind of weather I will have and I mainly try to match everything with my personality and style. I love beautiful things and things that show who I am.
I feel flattered when my mother-in-law call me for advices and even though I think it's kind of funny, it really makes me feel responsable for what I say and wear.
Hope you guys can enjoy this guide*
Let's see if we can get some help from this
The Occasion: A Wedding
Old Etiquette: Don’t wear white or black or red.
New Etiquette: Black and red are perfectly fine, but white is still the ultimate wedding no-no.
What to Wear: Let the invitation, the season, and the hour be your guides. (If you’re at a loss and you’re close to the bride, ask her what’s right; otherwise, consult the maid of honor or the bride’s mother.)
For day weddings, which tend to be more casual, steer clear of anything heavily beaded or sequined, says Lauren A. Rothman, founder of Style Auteur, a fashion-consulting firm based in Washington founder of Style Auteur, a fashion-consulting firm based in Washington, D.C. Instead, opt for a knee-length dress in a material like cotton; in warmer weather or regions, strapless styles and open-toed shoes get the nod of approval. Simple hats also earn a thumbs-up, says Amy Lindquist, head of Lindquist Fashion & Image Consulting, in Minneapolis. If the ceremony is in the afternoon and the reception in the evening and the invitation doesn’t specify dress, assume the event is semiformal, which calls for a cocktail dress or an evening suit in a color that won’t upstage the bride. “Pale pink is OK — hot pink is not,” says Lindquist. Black tie once meant floor-length gowns. Now, at all but the grandest affairs, dresses as short as knee-length are acceptable, provided they have a semiformal or formal cut and fabric; silk or a silk blend, for instance, would be appropriate. As for wearing a strapless or sleeveless dress in a house of worship, some have strict rules about covering up; check the protocol beforehand or bring a wrap.
Should you be invited to the rehearsal dinner, “they vary greatly in formality, so note where it’s being held,” says Lizzie Post, an etiquette authority, an author, and a spokesperson for the Emily Post Institute. In general, “cocktail-party rules apply,” Joseph Williamson, a fashion stylist in New York City. “Save your better outfit for the big day, but wear something dressy to the dinner. A dress and a jacket or a cardigan with some sparkle would be nice. But keep it understated.” Remember — there’s only one shining star at matrimonial shindigs, and it’s not you.
The Occasion: A Cocktail Party
Old Etiquette: No surprise here — a cocktail dress.
New Etiquette: Cocktail dresses are always in style, but you have other options.
What to Wear: These days, a cocktail party can be anything from a swanky society affair — cue that glittery knee-length number from the “special occasions” department — to a low-key group of friends gathered around a platter of crudités. But for the most part, “cocktail parties are dressy-casual, so you can’t go wrong if you wear a top with some special details and a skirt or tailored pants, plus heels or fancy flats,” says Williamson. “Avoid fabrics that are too casual, like chino, jersey, and denim.”
A fitted cashmere or fine-gauge merino-wool top with a knee-length satin skirt, heels, earrings, and an armful of stacked bangles is just right, he says. Sue Fox, an etiquette authority based in Paso Robles, California, and the author of
Etiquette for Dummies (Wiley, $22,
www.amazon.com), also suggests a pantsuit, provided it doesn’t look too corporate. (Under the jacket, wear a silky camisole or some other feminine top with an evening vibe.) Keep in mind that different cities have their own dress codes, says Rothman: “Cocktail attire in Miami is just as dressy and chic as in New York, regardless of the weather differences, while in San Diego it’s interpreted a bit more casually, because the city is relaxed.”
The Occasion: A Dinner Party
Old Etiquette: A little black dress and heels.
New Etiquette: Gauge your outfit by the party.
What to Wear: Given the number of variables (what time of year is it? who are your hosts? is it a special occasion?), there’s no one right answer, which can make things a bit tricky. If you underdress, you risk offending your dinner companions. Overdress by a mile and “you can make your host feel inadequate, insecure, or uncomfortable,” etiquette authority Sue Fox points out. The solution: “Ask the host for advice,” says fashion consultant Lauren A. Rothman. It’s the best way to find out if you’re in for a denim-welcome get-together or a more buttoned-up, skirt-and-blouse affair. Still worried about hitting the mark? Stash dangly earrings or a pretty scarf in your bag to dress up an outfit if need be, advises etiquette authority Lizzie Post.
The Occasion: A Business Dinner or a Company Party
Old Etiquette: Your nine-to-five wear puts in some overtime.
New Etiquette: Keep things professional (you’re still working) but in line with the event.
What to Wear: When you’re dressing for a work function, the culture of your office should prevail. “If it’s a conservative environment, dress conservatively for events, too,” says fashion stylist Joseph Williamson. But no matter how relaxed your office environment or the occasion (that means you, company picnic!), never wear anything provocative. “A too-revealing outfit can prevent you from being taken seriously when it comes to job promotions,” warns Fox. And, yes, that includes the “sexy cat” costume you’ve been eyeing for the annual Halloween bash.
For business dinners, office wear is appropriate (provided your workplace isn’t overly casual): trousers with a refined sweater or a blouse and blazer. If you’re going to a work party straight from the office, try a sheath or a wrap dress in a dark shade, or “wear a suit and bring along a feminine blouse and evening-appropriate shoes, like in a metallic shade,” suggests Leah Ingram, an etiquette authority and the founder of
www.giftsandetiquette.com, based in New Hope, Pennsylvania. “Or you could simply swap your jewelry for something a little bolder — a chunky necklace instead of pearls.” As for that company picnic, choose knee-length shorts and a short-sleeve top, or a sundress with sandals — nothing ripped, frayed, or strapless.
The Occasion: A Job Interview
Old Etiquette: A conservative dark suit. End of story.
New Etiquette: You can’t go wrong with a suit, but in many fields it’s not the only (or best) choice.
What to Wear: At large, traditional companies, suits are still the standard. “There aren’t appropriate alternatives to a suit, and wearing one tells me you are seriously interested in the position,” says legal recruiter Kim Mains, manager of legal recruiting for Cozen O’Connor, a law firm based in Philadelphia. However, in many creative or artistic fields — design, media, retail, technology — it can be a plus to step outside of the box: Try a sheath dress with a wide belt and a cardigan, or a pencil skirt with a blouse and a cropped jacket. “When I’m hiring, I like to see an outfit that tells me the candidate has a personal sense of style,” says Paul Howalt, creative director and owner of Tactix Creative, a branding firm in Mesa, Arizona.
That said, no matter how casual the environment, don’t assume that it’s cool to wear jeans to an interview. “Don’t dress as if the job is yours,” cautions Peri Hansen, a senior client partner at Korn/Ferry International, an executive-search firm in Los Angeles. When in doubt, she says, “call the interviewer’s assistant or the HR executive and ask what’s appropriate. It shows interest and respect.” In all cases, your clothing should be impeccably clean, ironed, and tailored. Under no circumstances should it be skimpy, plunging, or tight.
The Occasion: A Baptism, a Bar Mitzvah, or Some Other Religious Ceremony
Old Etiquette: Trot out the Sunday finery. Florals welcome, hats and gloves preferred!
New Etiquette: Honor the occasion in attire that is tasteful, not stuffy.
What to Wear: For starters, “choose an outfit that’s appropriate in a religious facility — not too low-cut or clingy,” says etiquette authority Lizzie Post. (If you’ve never been to a particular house of worship, it’s a good idea to double-check its conventions.) Just as important is steering clear of anything overly serious when you’re celebrating a happy milestone in a child’s life. For a baptism, “wear a little bit of color, like a bright suit or a pretty daytime dress,” says Post. The dress code for a Bar Mitzvah or a Bat Mitzvah can be determined by the party held afterward. “If the party immediately follows the service, you’ll wear the same thing to both, so put on a cocktail dress, but make sure to cover up with a jacket or a shawl at the temple,” says fashion consultant Lauren A. Rothman. “If there’s a break before the reception, you may want to change.” A feminine suit works well for the service; wear something dressier to the party.
The Occasion: A Funeral or a Wake
Old Etiquette: If you’re in mourning, you’re in black.
New Etiquette: Your outfit doesn’t have to be black; it does have to be respectful.
What to Wear: What’s most important is to convey the somberness of the event, which can be accomplished with toned-down clothing in “dark neutrals, like navy, brown, and forest green,” says etiquette expert Leah Ingram. (Pantsuits and lightweight wool dresses are a safe bet.) Dark and discreet patterns are also fine, as are quiet and classic accessories, like pearls and stud earrings. “This is not the time for your orange-and-yellow Indonesian necklace,” “You shouldn’t be wearing anything festive or fun, unless you’ve been told otherwise.” If you suspect something might be pushing the envelope, skip it.
The Occasion: A Night at the Theater, the Ballet, or the Opera
Old Etiquette: All about puttin’ on the ritz.
New Etiquette: You’ve got a pretty wide berth. Still, spiff it up!
What to Wear: Once upon a time, these evenings out were considered a license to dress to the nines. Nowadays, though, you’re more likely to spot jeans and an I Heart NY T-shirt at a Broadway show than formal wear. But just because you can be casual doesn’t mean you should be. “You paid a fair amount for a nice evening out, so why drop the ball when it comes to your outfit?” says wardrobe consultant Amy Lindquist. On opening night, “go for broke and dress as you would for any black-tie occasion. Otherwise, dress as for a cocktail party: a sophisticated suit or a tailored shirt, trousers, and heels,” advises fashion stylist Joseph Williamson. But recognize regional differences. “In Burlington, Vermont, we would not show up to the ballet in an evening gown. But plenty of people in New York City do,” says Post. “Know your town and what’s expected.” And if ultimately you feel that you absolutely prefer to be in jeans, choose a pair in a dark wash with no holes or distressing.
The Occasion: A Good First Impression (a First Date, Meeting the In-Laws, School Functions)
Old Etiquette: A conservative twinset and a skirt to show how ladylike you are.
New Etiquette: Dress true to your personality — but this isn’t the time to take risks.
What to Wear: First and foremost, you should feel like you. Select an outfit that makes you feel great about yourself, “If there’s a particular color you look really good in or a pair of pants you’ve gotten a lot of compliments on, start with that,” he says. The cautionary note: As the old saying goes, you never get a second chance to make a first impression, so avoid potential eyebrow-raisers. “Don’t wear anything too tight or short, and don’t try too many trends at once,” says fashion consultant Lauren A. Rothman. “For a first date, pick an outfit that’s colorful and feminine and leaves something to the imagination, like a wrap dress.”
An easy but proper ensemble for a school event would be a sheath with a cashmere wrap or trousers and a jacket. When meeting the in-laws, look to your partner for cues about how formal (or not) his family is. (Why deny yourself a cheat sheet?) “Definitely find out their expectations and how they like to dress,” says etiquette authority Lizzie Post. “My boyfriend’s parents were perfectly happy to meet me in jeans and a tee, but others might be more traditional.”
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